Light on XXX, pt. 1

It is so much easier for me to imagine a praying murderer, a praying prostitute, than a vain person praying. Nothing is so at odds with prayer as vanity. – Dietrich Bonhoeffer

I wonder if you clicked on this link solely off the title? I don’t know what level of maturity you find yourself, but I feel compelled to talk about that taboo topic and encourage you to read on. That topic that lingers in the depths of many. The one that both believer and nonbeliever, Jew and Gentile alike, struggle with and or accept to be merely fact. Everybody, women and men, at one point in life or currently uses pornography, because…Fill in the blank with whatever reason or shall I be daft to say excuse? Now I need to be honest so you don’t rule this as the thoughts and wisdom of an unattached, misguided, judgmental Christian. I have struggled with using porn since the age of 11 or 12 and regardless of the months or weeks or days I manage to go in abstaining this is something I currently struggle with. Now that is out the way, let’s dive in.

I been reading a biography on Bonhoeffer in which he believed in order to reach people: “We must think with the doubter”, he said, “even doubt with him”. That idea is based in the Bible, 1 Corinthians 9:19-23. That being said let’s doubt together. The Bible doesn’t literally have in writing, “masturbating is wrong”. It also doesn’t have in writing, “pornography is bad”. It speaks on terms like: sexual immorality, adultery, idolatry, impurity, covetous, etc.. that it speaks on a lot! From Jesus to Paul, to prophets like Jeremiah, Isaiah, shoot, even kings like Solomon warn of the severity of let’s give it an overarching label: sexual sin. At the bottom I will list some extra Biblical references and books that speak much more in-depth on this topic for your own inquiring. I do want to look at one passage in Corinthians. 1 Corinthians 6:12-20, Paul writes:

“All things are lawful for me,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be dominated by anything. “Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

If you still reading, right on! You ain’t scared. So this passage starts off, “‘All things are lawful for me’, but not all things are helpful.” Well duh! Let’s be honest with ourselves. Porn ain’t good for you. PERIOD. There is no counter argument that gives you a solid firm foundation and just cause to use it. I’ll entertain a possible argument, “I use it because, shit, I’m horny and I got nobody.” Congratulations moron, at the core you saying your human desire can not be control. Really?? A person can be THAT horny to not stop. If I was capable to pay you a million dollars and said all you have to do is not beat or flick it for one night and tomorrow morning it’s yours…guess who would be a million dollars richer. You can stop if you want to. It depends on what’s your motivation. Porn ain’t helpful.

Now maybe a week goes by, daresay, months and then one night after all day of listening to over sexualize music and watching tv ads that cute boy or girl you been talking to doesn’t reciprocate or respond to your flirting. Sayonara, to that pure streak. We buy into the lie that porn gives and is love. IT DOESN’T and IT’S NOT. Listen, I learned this a couple months back. I mean one can say now in the sober moment away from the scene, “No shit bro, I know it ain’t love.” Sadly, part of you doesn’t know that. You are looking for love in the wrong places. The screen doesn’t give ya love. God only knows it ain’t in the strip clubs either. My college pastor says, “Our porn affair parades and produces our distortion of the most fundamental things in life.” I can quote truth to you all day and it won’t mean a dam thing because at the end of the day your heart needs the transformation.

“There is no victory without sacrifice” I honestly believe the rest of the scripture points and clearly speaks on our issue of sexual sin. I don’t know what led you to click on it, but God wants you to know, “You are bought with a price.” We, yes, I included, struggle with this idea: God exist to make our life easier and bless us because come on, we deserve it. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAHAH! How vain of us. 

Jesus says,

“I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me…If you love me, you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be with you.” — John 14:6, 15-17.

Jeez, this subject is thrilling to write about and I believe whoever you are reading this can use just like me more light on this issue. Oh yes there will be a part 2! We rather go on struggling. Shoot, over and over again we see victory, then failure, and repent.Then hit that restart cycle button. We are being mastered by our desires, yet, God says, ‘I will send another Helper’. Yall, if you believe in God we need to stop putting Him in a box, in limitations we can fathom. HE IS BIGGER THEN US.

It’s time to put on the armor (Ephesians 6:10-20) and do war! Jesus is the way and the truth and the life. It’s time to stop being a pansy and enter this battle He has called you to enter. Jesus calls for heart transplant followers not people pleasers. Not same old people with a new look. “No one who puts hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.”  — Luke 9:62

Will you join me in the war?

NAI

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