“You are wrong if you think Fortune has changed towards you. Change is her normal behavior, her true nature….You have discovered the changing face of the random goddess….With domineering hand she moves the turning wheel [of chance], like currents in a treacherous bay swept to and from. No cries or misery she hears, no tears she heeds, but steely hearted laughs at groans her deeds have wrung.” — Boethius, The Consolation of Philosophy
Living with a new roommate brings,so many new challenges, obvious one, another human sharing the same dwelling space. I was raised by a single mom, so when momma was off at work the house was mine. The music was turned all the way up, movies went on the tele, books became adventures I could escape into, and when those things didn’t satisfy I grab my bike or stretch the legs in stride rush off to my friend’s house. You designed for companionship. At the end of the day we designed for companionship even ole Hildy, Spot, Blacky, WHATEVER you’ve named your four legged pet will never suffice for that deep yearning inside of ya desiring to be known, accepted, and loved. Funny thing is the warmth of another human won’t suffice either. Fortune and life have a way of exposing the failings of humans that you not sure how to recover from the wreckage. This is for those people that are tired of being let down and need to stop limping from their past:
“The research of psychologists demonstrates that many people, instead of being plagued with low-self-esteem, ‘are so infected with self-love that they are unable to love others…[and] cannot see beyond their horizon of their own needs and concerns. They are therefore unable to put themselves to one side and empathize with the needs and pains of others–their reality is best so all should adapt to it.'” — James Davies, The Importance of Suffering
“If you have understanding, hear this; listen to what I say. Shall one who hates justice govern? Will you condemn him who is righteous and might, who says to a king, ‘Worthless one,’ and to nobles, ‘Wicked man,’ who shows no partiality to princes, nor regards the rich more than the poor, for they are all the work of his hands? In a moment they die; at midnight the people are shaken and pass away, and the mighty are taken away by no human hand. ‘For his eyes are on the ways of a man, and he sees all his steps. There is no gloom or deep darkness where evildoers may hide themselves.” — Job 34:16-22
Now if you never read Job I highly recommend googling Book of Job and reading it. The part I share above is from Elihu. A young less experience guy, filled with God’s spirit, decides to rebuke and exhort Job and his three friends for their “good” counsel towards Job; NOW, the stage is set to talk about Friendship. With the new challenges of living with a new roommate also brings the enjoyment of growing a new friendship, how I love that aspect. If you met me I got to be honest, I HATE the mere legality of intro questions one puts forth when meeting someone new. It’s a desire I have to speak soul to soul to whomever I interact with regardless of the time or depth of our knowing each other. Why? Fool life is short. Each day is a gift for purposeful interactions whether it’s crossing paths with a fam member or nonbeliever; such that, The Creator is speaking and wants to grow you toward the image of His son (Rom. 8:29)
If your life matters, which it does, then your life has a purpose. Fortune will continue on with life as streams continue onward, the sun rises and sets, or the world spins all without any of your input and addition. I hate to break it to you, but your reality isn’t capable for EVERY single person in your sphere of interaction to adapt to it. Rather saying to hell with that person not going with how you see it, humble your pretentious butt and see the log in your own eye. I know judgement feels so right. You or your flesh may have this as your rebuttal, “You don’t know what they did!! They not even regretful or sorry for their actions.” (Matt 7:1-6)…To be judge, jury, and executioner is not what you were designed to be from birth. Proverbs 21:2 says, “A man’s ways seem right to him, but the LORD evaluates the motives”
Motives. Now, you dang well know you care more about a four-legged animal with no soul, because you having the hardest time facing the pain, acknowledging the assault, and or simply embracing the betrayal he caused you. Oh, gentlemen, something he clearly wasn’t, that deep drive of companionship looks, oh, so tempting when you combine your misguided reality of what makes a man with your biological tendencies, add in her attractive appeal and loose morals, or better yet feeling of “true love”, equates to a disastrous heartache once the truth of the matter sets in or sobriety returns.
If you gonna base your motives off “true love” how about have a proper understanding and definition, so you recognize it when it’s around ya:
- John 3:19 — “And this is the judgement: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil.”
- 1 Corinthians 13:7 — “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
“God is love” (1 John 4:16) THAT’S love. That is TRUE love not your idea or feeling of “true love”. All the love, we, humans manifest, ultimately, once you appear inside the heart proves to display one failing attempt to grasp at our own realities. Sure it upholds and satisfies, however my, NAI’s love, your or their love CAN NOT bear all. I know for sure when I come home late and see a messy house my heart isn’t thinking how lovely and busting at the seams to display a love void of my needs and concerns. Thomas Edison once said, “If you wish to succeed, you should use persistence as your good friend, experience as your reference, prudence as your brother and hope as your sentry.” You know that’s not a bad way to live; however, if you hoping in another or, better yet, the next companion they still faulty. Persistence only last so long. Experience doesn’t always prove as a reliable reference for current inference and speculation.
My friend, my hope is you acknowledge there exist a higher companion you were designed for. This companion sticks closer then a brother or sentry. He reigns as Lord. He saved you from fear and worry. The lack of understanding you possess, regarding the past causing your limp, is fueling this unquenchable desire that NOTHING, and I mean, nothing, on this earth: travels, people, money, sex, status, power, honor, wealth, religion, moralistic or self-exalting ideology, etc.. will suffice accept Christ. “In him we have redemption through his[Christ] blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace, which he lavished upon us, in all wisdom and insight making known to us the mystery of his will, according to his purpose, which he set forth in Christ as a plan for the fullness of time, to unite all things in him, things in heaven and things on earth.”
“Everything is needful [necessary] that he sends, nothing can be needful [necessary] that he withholds.” — John Newton